When we talk about an American woman, what generally comes in our mind? A woman with exposed body, feminist, breaking all social boundary, doing party all night etc which is partially true.
But there is a significant population of American women who are not like this because they know that this isn’t the way women live.
So What’s the true way a woman can live with all dignity and freedom. The answer will be given in this article by a Muslimah who once wore bikini & shorts, had fun all night and did all those things which Islam counts as sin but ended upon right path while retaining her dignity and freedom both. She embraced Islam.
Read the story of Sara Bokker, an American model and feminist who now wears aba and hijab and feels more liberated than before.
Booker, is an American woman who was born in the midst of America’s “Heartland”. She grew up, just like any other girl, being fixated with the glamour of life in “the big city”. Eventually, she moved to Florida and on to the South Beach of Miami, a hotspot for those seeking the “glamorous life”.
Naturally, she did what most average Western girls do. She focused on her appearance and appeal, basing herself-worth on how much attention she got from others. She worked out rigorously and became a personal trainer, acquired an upscale waterfront residence, became a regular “exhibiting” beach-goer and was able to attain a “living-in-style” kind of life.
Years went by, only to realize that she scale of self-fulfillment and happiness slid down the more she progressed in her “feminine appeal”. She was a slave to fashion. She was a hostage to her looks.
As the gap continued to progressively widen between herself-fulfillment and lifestyle, she sought refuge in escapes from alcohol and parties to meditation, activism, and alternative religions, only to have the little gap widen to what seemed like a valley. She eventually realized it all was merely a pain killer rather than an effective remedy.
As a feminist libertarian, and an activist who was pursuing a better world for all, her path crossed with that of another activist who was already at the lead of indiscriminately furthering causes of reform and justice for all.
She joined in the ongoing campaigns of her new mentor which included, at the time, election reform and civil rights, among others. Now her new activism was fundamentally different. Instead of “selectively” advocating justice only to some, she learned that ideals such as justice, freedom, and respect are meant to be and are essentially universal and that own good and common good are not in conflict.
For the first time, she knew what “all people are created equal” really meant. But most importantly, she learned that it only takes faith to see the world as one and to see the unity in creation.
One day she came across a book that is negatively stereotyped in the West–The Holy Quran. Up until that point, all she had associated with Islam was women covered in “tents”, wife beaters, harems, and a world of terrorism.
She was first attracted by the style and approach of the Quran, and then intrigued by its outlook on existence, life, creation, and the relationship between Creator and creation.\
She found the Quran to be a very insightful address to heart and soul without the need for an interpreter or pastor.
Eventually she hit a moment of truth: her new-found self-fulfilling activism was nothing more than merely embracing a faith called Islam where she could live in peace as a “functional” Muslim.
She bought a beautiful long gown and head cover resembling the Muslim woman’s dress code and she walked down the same streets and neighborhoods where only days earlier she had walked in her shorts, bikini, or “elegant” western business attire.
Although the people, the faces, and the shops were all the same, one thing was remarkably distinct: the peace at being a woman she experienced for the very first time.
She felt as if the chains had been broken and she was finally free. She was delighted with the new looks of wonder on people’s faces in place of the looks of a hunter watching his prey she had once sought.
Suddenly a weight had been lifted off her shoulders. She no longer spent all her time consumed with shopping, makeup, getting her hair done, and working out. Finally, she was free.
Of all places, she found her Islam at the heart of what some call “the most scandalous place on earth”, which makes it all the more dear and special.
Soon enough, news started breaking about politicians, Vatican clergymen, libertarians, and so-called human rights and freedom activists condemning the Hijab (headscarf) as being oppressive to women, an obstacle to social integration, and more recently, as an Egyptian official called it -“a sign of backwardness.”
She find it to be a blatant hypocrisy when some people and so-called human rights groups rush to defend women’s rights when some governments impose a certain dress code on women, yet such “freedom fighters” look the other way when women are being deprived of their rights, work, and education just because they choose to exercise their right to wear the Hijab.
Today she is still a feminist, but a Muslim feminist, who calls on Muslim women to assume their responsibilities in providing all the support they can for their husbands to be good Muslims.
To raise their children as upright Muslims so they may be beacons of light for all humanity once again. To enjoin well, any good and to forbid evil, any evil.
To speak righteousness and to speak up against all ills. To fight for our right to wear Hijab and to please our Creator whichever way we.
But just as importantly to carry our experience with Hijab to fellow women who may never have had the chance to understand what wearing Hijab means to them and why do them, so dearly, embrace it.
Willingly or unwillingly, women are bombarded with styles of “dressing-in-little-to-nothing” virtually in every means of communication everywhere in the world.
As an ex Non-Muslim, she insist on women’s right to equally know about Hijab, its virtues, and the peace and happiness it brings to a woman’s life as it did to her. Yesterday, the bikini was the symbol of her liberty, when in actuality it only liberated her from her spirituality and true value as a respectable human being.
She couldn’t be happier to shed her bikini in South Beach and the “glamorous” Western lifestyle, to live in peace with her Creator and enjoy living among fellow humans as a worthy person.
Today, Hijab is the new symbol of woman’s liberation to find who she is, what her purpose is, and the type of relation she chooses to have with her Creator.
To women who surrender to the ugly stereotype against the Islamic modesty of Hijab, she say: You don’t know what you are missing. I just want to say Islam is a perfect religion. The boundaries which has made by Islam for women is only for his betterment and safety. Those women who want liberty and freedom, I must say to them, read this article. It is for you.
This is a message and warning too. Today, the western culture we see is not more than a delusion and women of that culture are treated as sexual objects and nothing else. Not all glitter is gold. May Allah guide us. Ameen!